Friday, September 19, 2008

I was at a wedding recently and had a lovely chat with this one guy. He loved to dance, was funny and had a great sense of humour.  Anyway so we were talking and he non- chalantly added that he has been divorced and has a child. BAH! 

I suppose at my ripe old age of 30 this should be expected. I mean people have lived, they have baggage and experience amongst other things. I personally have never even thought about marriage nor am I interested in having children. So therein my dilemma lies......should I stop being such an asshole and just go out with him for a drink? We are both going to the same event next week so I will see him either way. We have spoken on the phone and he did express an interest in going out again before the event however with everything going on lately I could not swing it. I'd imagine I will make up my mind after I see him again next week.  I was three sheets to the wind at the wedding and will be stone cold sober at this up coming event as I am driving, so what I thought was a great sense of humour might actually turn out to be dull. We shall see. 

12 comments:

JLee said...

I think you should give it a chance. If he's worth it, you would accept and love the child if you love him and it's easier as a woman since men don't generally have children that live with them full time.

Scott said...

I think you gotta give it a shot. Being sober will let you know what you really think anyway.

Scott

Drywall Mom said...

Wait for the event. Tell him if he wants to go out before that "I'm too busy right now, I am loaded down with too much work" so that you can see what he is like at the event when there is no pressure. But I have no advice on dating a guy with kids, I never had to do that so I wouldn't even know what to say. Trust your instincts. They are usually right, that's all I can say.

rawbean said...

Definitely give it a shot. But go with your gut after this next meeting. If it's a no, let it go, if it's a yes - YAY!

Anonymous said...

Go for it. You've still gotta get the rest of those 5 dates for you list thing, right?

And so what if he's a dad. That means his plumbing works and he's probably a bit more responsible than the average guy.

Claire said...

Play it by ear, baby. Could be awesome...might not be. Keep us posted!

Cxx

Kneller said...

Yeah, at our age, a divorce or kid is about par for the course. :)

Miss Ash said...

Jlee, ha you're like me skipping ahead a few years when I haven't even gone on one date with him yet haha!!

Scott, true true.

DM, he already told me he wanted to go out before the event and I said I could not as I am too busy (which I am). Great minds think alike :)

Rawbean, I will, he does seem like a very fun person so time will tell....

WIGSF, very true he will be date #2 for my list....clearly I'm slow at this as I seem to get one a year LOL

Claire, very true and I will!

Pip, I've never been in that kind of situation before but it's true......we're old *sigh*

Wiwille said...

Just do it and see what happens. Might be fun.

Invisible G. said...

I try to view dating as an adventure - I enjoy meeting people and hearing their stories, even if it doesn't turn into romantic. It's always fun to see how a person ticks. It's just sheer bonus if he or she is THE ONE. :)

Natalia said...

Hmmm I don't want kids, but I m not opposed to dating someone who has one or two. While it might sound mean, guys with kids are not the same as women with kids. Women seem to have them full time. Men seem to only have them here and there. It doesn't get in the way as much. But you do have to ask yourself whether you want them in your life. If you like him, you might also like them.

Jennifer said...

If you still like him don't let his ex and kid stop you. No one is going to ask you to do anything for the kid, and if they do you're not obligated to do it.
You might like it, you might hate it. Just like any other situation.