The Neurotic Date

So as per my New Years Resolution i'm stepping out of the box and i set up a date with the guy i met in December. Now just from talking on the phone with him to set up a meeting place, he seemed quite eager yet indecisive about where to meet and it was quite bothering me. To the point where i told him if it was going to be this difficult to choose a meeting place we might as well forget it. I told Jennifer i thought he was dumb and i wouldn't be gone for more than an hour. He asked if he could come and see her boyfriends band with me to which i replied no, we could meet up for drinks beforehand. I didn't want to commit to an entire evening if i did not like him or vice versa. So he tells me he will think of a place to meet that is inbetween us and call me back. He calls back and when i ask where he's thought of it's like he has no idea what i'm talking about and is like "ughhh, umm." So anyway we decide to meet at the place i had originally suggested. I tell him to meet me there at 7:30ish. To which he replies "when you say 7:30ish do you mean like between 7:30 and eight or like...." and "ok, well i guess i'll just find you in there or ummm ughhh, ummm" To which i reply "yes it's a bar and it's snowing outside, no need to greet me at the door just go inside and i'll find you" Ughh already my on my nerves.

So we meet up and i'm pleasantly surprised he's tall, has dark hair and i find him attractive. I had a few drinks the first time i met him so wasn't sure what to expect. So we have some drinks, get along well enough, we're both veggies for the same reasons and he's into the environment. I decide to invite him to see the band and hang out with my friends, even though i find him slightly neurotic. For example we both went to the washroom at the same time and he's like "ok, so i guess i'll meet you right back here, like right here" to which i just laughed. As well as the previous 7:30ish conversation and other various things he had said throughout the evening. I started to feel like i was hanging out with Woody Allen or was in the movie A Beautiful Mind.

We head to our next destination which is to see Aarons band and meet up with everyone. The neurosis continue on the subway when he points at my wrist and is like "you're beeding, what happened" I look at my wrist and it's the indentation of my watch, no blood, just a mark. His neurosis were also very evident to Jennifer when he was trying to tell her how to work her camera. She said he was like a backseat driver. He even admitted to me that other people have thought he was neurotic and perhaps had some type of OCD...no shit. He went outside and when he returned instead of coming to sit at the table he just stood at the bar so i had to go and hunt him down. Another time, we went to join Jennifer, cousin Phil and a bunch of other people at a table, i sat, he stood behind us. I pulled a chair up and said he could sit so he did. I asked him if he was very anti-social to which he replied no, but he doesn't really know anyone. He then talked about his love of comic books and star trek and various sci-fi things, still not interacting with anyone else but me. As well, he and his ex had bought a house, they broke up and she moved out, but her stuff is still at the house, it's been over 6 months....weird. He asked me if i wanted to go back to his house to which i replied no, my ride was leaving so i shook his hand and told him to call me and i left.

So for starters there is no way i could possibly date someone who is so neurotic about everthing, where to meet, the time, where will he find me when i return from the bathroom etc. As well i'd like to think that i'm a very outgoing person and rather sociable....he is way more of an introvert and certainly not for me. So i gave it a shot...and now i'm not quite sure how to tell him i'm not interested without being mean. Any suggestions?