(This is my trunk)
I woke up on Monday morning to find my driveway had turned into a skating rink and my car into an enormous ice cube. The only good to come out of this was a surprise day off due to shoddy weather. Rather then do anything useful, i lounged around in my jammies ALL day long, watched terrible tv and relaxed, it was delightful.
(this is my bumper)So back to work i went and while diligently working (ie chatting on google) a friend and i began to discuss past relationships and "what ifs." In my life there was only one person that came to mind during this conversation. I was very young and naive at the time. I started to live my life with reckless abandon and he was more of a quiet soul. It was actually I who broke it off, he was a very genuine person, too nice if you will. I wasn't ready for the super nice, kinda nerdy guy and at the time i felt he was rather boring. He contacted me a few years later, and I've since seen him once. We caught up, had a few laughs and of course he's now married. I just wish that i knew back then what i know now, nerdy nice guys are the way to go!! I would do back flips if i could find such a person to spend time with now. Have any of you my dear readers ever felt the "what ifs...."?
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i'm forever getting the what if feeling
but not always about relationships, half the time it's about shed loads of other stuff
Reading on a slow dialup connection... I see the phrase "this is my trunk" before the picture loads. I was really expecting a pic of your backside. Then it loaded and it was yer car.
So very dissappointed...
Melissa, why was he the only nice person i dated LMAO?
PX, oh yeah i get the What ifs about other things as well....what if i had stayed in university is a big one for me.
WIGSF, trust me if you saw my backside you would be praying to see an actual picture of my trunk.
I'm glad you enjoyed your ice day as I liked the first 2 of mine, but by the third I was ready to get out.
As for What Ifs, I try not to dwell on them very much as it's easy to get lost and if you weren't into him at the time then it probably wasn't right at that very moment. Probably.
I can't believe you got an 'ice day' I wish I was still in high school...hahahahaha
I have definately had the what ifs... it was more a what if she was single kind of thing though.
My big "what if" is with a boy –let's call him "Yann"– who moved away to, oh, let's say, Korea. We were crazy about each other, but our life-timing was bad; then when he moved back he was all weird and anti-social. All that, uh, kimchi made him go a bit loopy I think.
Que sera, sera. Needn't dwell on such things, but perhaps acknowledging them is important so that we can use them to steer us in the future. My life lesson learned would be to not date guys who are about to move to Asia (which, technically, I am doing again right now). So, clearly life has taught me nothing.
What Ifs will only drive you mad! lol You probably would have found him boring now as well...but who knows? Sometimes in our minds we blow something up to be great, when in reality, it is much more mundane.
yeah i get that whatif too...it's a big whatif as well
but living in the past isn't the way of the future (that was almost philosophical)
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looking at those pictures of ice makes me nautious.
i hate winter dirving.
2DP, I'm a dweller, and i need to change that about myself. It's not healthy.
Scott, you're such a nerd LOL!!
TT, when is he moving to Asia you silly goose?
Jlee, most likely that would be the case, but we do change as we age. I'd like to think i'm more mature now haha.
PX woo hoo where did that come from :P
Ashley welcome. Love your name by the way :P
i had a dream about micheal last night, and asked myself the same questions...
Hmmm...if I remember correctly (and I do) you recently snubbed me cuz I dont have uch fun. So yeah nerdy, nice guys may seem to be less fun but in fact we are a ton of fun when given a chance. Why dont you try and break up his marriage?
What ifs? What if I hadnt been studying so seriously and ignoring the girl that I loved when she was seriously ill and needed me?
PP i think we all go through that at some point.
Yrautca, i'm going to ask OG if you're a lot of fun, hopefully she won't lie so as to not hurt your feelings :P
i don't know, i've not even been drinking (well not since monday)
That amount of ice is nothing, why when I was young we had ice like that all the time...
nerdy nice guy here....
:P
also in Toronto ;) ;)
and yes.. monday was dreadful... but now its FRIDAY!!!
PX, the weekend is coming!!
Brian, did you also walk for 30 miles uphill in a blizzard like my parents did :P Welcome!!
FU, nerdy hot nice guy Woo Hoo!!!
the weekend is here...well almost i'm going out in a bit anyway, i feel the need to copious amounts of alcohol :)
I am several women's "What if guy..?"
No regrets, I'm happy. Patti is the girl for me.
Well, I met Hubby when I was 19 so I'd have to say "no" to that one - except for the guy that I mentioned earlier on your blog that I had a crush on in high school and then later found out that he liked me too but my stupid friend never told me until way too late. Oh, but I guess I have wondered "what if" I hadn't met Hubby back then. I mean, I think I'd still be single now for sure. I'd probably still be living in Michigan and hanging out with the same people from high school. Or, I'd live in Chicago maybe since that's where I used to want to move before I came here. But, these are just my theories. Life would be different.
Ah, but it never would have worked between you and the "what if" boy - unless, of course, you did know then what you know now. Funny how life works that way...
Yeah, I was I nerdy guy in High School. It felt good to go back in my Marine Uniform. The nerdy guy who used to be in JROTC was now a U.S. Marine. Strike one up for the nerds...
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I've felt it more often than I'd care to until recently. I've come to realize that things happen for a reason. You know...if Eric had appeared in my life a few years earlier...I'm not sure if I'd have been ready for him or if he'd been ready for me. We have to go through all the shit to become the people we are today in order to appreciate those things.
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