So our friends who got married in Vegas met on Lava Life. Another friend just admitted that she was inspired by them and made a profile as well, a fake one mind you, just so she could check the goods out, but she made one nonetheless. I have another few friends who have placed profiles on Plenty of Fish, apparently they are cheapolas as that site is free. They have also been peer pressuring me into joining that site but thus far i have refrained. The remainder of my friends are either living in sin with their partners or are happily married and trying to have babies...eek!!
I'm not sure what my problem is but i still feel like there is this huge stigma attached to such sites and i would rather die than have my dating profile for all to see. To me it shouts "LOOK AT THE LOSER" and can you imagine who might see it.....my family, people from highschool, co-workers, oh i would die. I suppose i could post one without a photo, but then i'm sure everyone would think that i'm a hideous monster. That's what i think of people without photos, that they must be rather unattractive, you know have goiters hanging off of their necks or big boils all over their face with hair protruding from said boils.
Anyway, i want to know what you ladies and gents think about this whole internet dating stuff. Has anyone tried it? Any horror stories?
My other options of meeting Prince Charming are pretty much slim to none. I've gone to bars for years and have not found too many exciting people in them, i've met most of my friends friends and i am not a great flirter at all. Jennifer is the queen of flirting and is always yelling at me when she thinks i've missed an opportunity to chat some fellas up. Once in her elevator of her very gay building a group of guys were making conversation with us. We got off onto her floor and she starts yelling at me as to why i didn't talk to them more because finding a straight man in her building was like finding a needle in a haystack. I honestly didn't think of it. I've joined volleyball teams, I volunteer, i'm out there.....but nothing :(
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If you were going to do online then you are better off trying one of the pay sites like eharmony.com or match.com.
Free websites will have a lot of trash on it.
You tried bars, maybe you can try coffee shops or bookstores. You also should ask someone out and not wait for them to ask you. You dont have to flirt. Just ask whether he would like a cup of coffee. If he says no, its his loss.
You also need to wear your hair curly more often as in my humble but qualified opinion thats the way to go for you :)
P.S. Sorry for the mess I created.
What about your friends, who are only quasi dating, and dont want to get married, or have kids, and arent online....
Once I move home, im kissing all of my windsor randoms good bye....then i'm single....
I'm totally with you on this Miss Ash. I would rather die than try something like Lava Life and for the exact same reasons that you stated - AND I too know people who've met this way!
I just can't do it, I still believe in the old fashion way of meeting boys.
i tried it
it wasn't great
but i've got some new online friends as a result of it
but love wasn't found
I know two people who have met their boyfriend/girlfriend on lavalife and they are currently dating. Not really my scene at all, but hey, whatever works I guess.
I thought that Volleyball would be a sure thing.
Scott
I would like to point out that I am not married, living in sin or any of the above nor am I a member of any online dating sites...although maybe there is something to it..it's not like we're rolling in happiness
Dawn - We arent hopeless either....
Rawbean - I TOTALLY agree with you, and meeting guys the old fashioned way. I mean, there were hundreds of years of meeting and dating before the invention of the internet....those people had to meet some how.
Yrautca, i agree there's more potential for trash if it's free. Thanks for the hair comment, but i like it straight.
pp & Dawn, yes yes neither of you have babies, nor are married, nor are you on the net, though Dawn you were living in sin previously :)
Rawbean, i'm not so much for the old fashioned way as i am concerned about keeping my dignity in tact.
PX at least you made some new friends out of it.
Scott, my V-ball team consisted of my friends bf, a 50 year old Italian man who has been divorced twice, a married man, and two other females...no potential.
It's so wierd that you wrote this post b/c I was JUST thinking this very thing. I'm getting pressure to do the online thing...but frankly, I wouldn't want to be caught dead doing that. I know it's terrible..but you almost feel like that route is for...well, how should I say it? Losers. Hiss, boo. I know. I'm not saying it's true, I'm just saying that's how it feels and that's how I'd feel doing it. But like you, I don't know what else to do about my personal life. I go out and try to meet people, but I haven't had a date in over a year. Not one. *Sigh* Maybe we're too stuck up adn maybe we should do a site. Dammit.
Always a tricky one….whilst I don’t have any objection to the whole online thing I don’t think I would ever be comfortable standing up at my wedding and telling the story of how we met….the one couples always tell containing some sort of amusing anecdote…..and mine would be: ‘One day I saw a picture of her online and sent her an email’
I totally agree with you Linny, it just seems like it would be for less fortunate people shall i say.
Aussie Pom, that would be hilarious. I know i went to a party once where a guy was bringing his girlfriend he met online and we all couldn't wait to see her. Turns out she was quite lovely. But yeah, it would make for an embarassing/awkward weddind speech.
Miss Ash, you are correct I was living in sin....look how well that turned out.
PP as for being hopeless, I certainly hope not otherwise I should just kill myself now
Dawn it sucks but it's not the end of the world.
I've been single for 8-9 years now, ouch. However, i've dated and had some fun inbetween, just no relationships per se.
Dawn - You cant kill yourself...We can hardly have our sex & the city moments without you!!!
don't believe it is the end of the world I think at this point we are all incredibly lucky to be single...at least we're all together in this boat
Everytime I see a commercial for eHarmony.com I get VERY curious. I think that if I were single I would totally give it a try. I mean, there might be a guy out there just like me who saw the commercials and was curious about what he would find there. Who knows. I mean, it couldn't hurt (except for the fact that I'm married. Still, I DO find it intriguing and I would LOVE for you to try it so I could hear all about it).
Anyway, it's not like your family, people from highschool, co-workers, etc. will see your profile unless they too are on the site. But, I do understand your hesitation. It is a little awkward. But, it could have great rewards too.
dawn - and we're all incredibly lucky not to have any children. :)
First off I want to thank you for posting a link to my site. Thank you very much!
Now my opinion on internet dating is, it is no different then walking up to someone in a bar, or bookstore. If there is an attraction there, it can work. The problem is you have to weed out all the losers before you get to that point! And I will add, there are a lot of losers out there.
I don't know if i would try it. Maybe one of those adult sites to get some freaky sex (only kidding). I am all about meeting people the old fashion way. The internet is good for midgets or people who are real shy/no pick-up skills or maybe have no friends/new to an area. Being a sexy beast - I never had trouble meeting women (I met them and they disliked me - why would meeting them online change that?)
SS and Veggie Chef had me thinking that maybe it would be a new and interesting way to meet someone, and then BB squashed that...."people who have no friends and midgets" LOL
They really prefer to be called dwarfs or little people.
You're thinking too hard here Ash, go out there and have fun with it, kind of like a guy would!!!
Whatever happens, happens!
No no slopmaster, i got rid of my myspace account. Too many weirdos and young people.
Ash, why don't you make a bare bones profile, so you can look at some people's profiles on these sites, and then if you see something you like you can put a picture on your profile and fill the rest of it out, email them and give it a shot. You can take the profile down later if it's not working. The chances of anyone you know seeing your profile in the week you have it up is slim to none.
I have a friend who found a lovely guy on craigslist.
btw, i didn't know you had such an aversion to internet dating, i assumed that's how you met raffi.
and if i ended up marrying someone from the internet, i'd just make up a better story. i fell from a height and he caught me! or we were prison penpals and he got out of jail and now we're getting married.
LOL @ Prison Penpals...and no he was not my Prison Penpal
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