It seems as though in the last week or so I've become unbearably pathetic and a few friends have decided to "set me up." Very strange seeing as these friends come from different groups and don't know one another but clearly have impeccable timing.
I walked into a friends house last Tuesday she declared she had found someone for me to date, a client of hers, older, established and if she wasn't married she'd hop on that train for a ride.
The 2nd friend is a gal on my volleyball team. We've played together for a few years and she inquired about my status a few weeks ago. I laughed and told her I was perpetually single (ask me in 10 years and the answer will still be the same). She wrinkled her brow in a WTF kind of way and said she didn't get it, I am fun, athletic blah blah and she would keep her eye out for me. We're having a few drinks this week after our game and she nonchalantly leans over and tells me she's going to bring a friend from work by one of these days after the game. I begged her to tell me when as I'm A) wearing some form of sweat pant attire and B) sweaty as hell with no makeup and rather disheveled hair after our games. Not a great first impression though I'd imagine it's the worst I will ever look. She said nope it would be a surprise. BAH!!!
Lastly, there's a friend of a friend that I ended up chatting with via facebook. He's asked me out already several times and I've always declined because I really do hate dating. As well he's the absolute opposite of myself, he's very quiet, tall and very skinny, doesn't go out much and has never travelled. However, on my list of goals I have to go on 5 dates within the next few years (laugh all you want but that's a lot for me as I loathe dating. It most likely stems from my self esteem issue) so I'll most likely give it a go.
What about the rest of you singles out there, how is the dating world treating you and do you actually enjoy going on dates?
I walked into a friends house last Tuesday she declared she had found someone for me to date, a client of hers, older, established and if she wasn't married she'd hop on that train for a ride.
The 2nd friend is a gal on my volleyball team. We've played together for a few years and she inquired about my status a few weeks ago. I laughed and told her I was perpetually single (ask me in 10 years and the answer will still be the same). She wrinkled her brow in a WTF kind of way and said she didn't get it, I am fun, athletic blah blah and she would keep her eye out for me. We're having a few drinks this week after our game and she nonchalantly leans over and tells me she's going to bring a friend from work by one of these days after the game. I begged her to tell me when as I'm A) wearing some form of sweat pant attire and B) sweaty as hell with no makeup and rather disheveled hair after our games. Not a great first impression though I'd imagine it's the worst I will ever look. She said nope it would be a surprise. BAH!!!
Lastly, there's a friend of a friend that I ended up chatting with via facebook. He's asked me out already several times and I've always declined because I really do hate dating. As well he's the absolute opposite of myself, he's very quiet, tall and very skinny, doesn't go out much and has never travelled. However, on my list of goals I have to go on 5 dates within the next few years (laugh all you want but that's a lot for me as I loathe dating. It most likely stems from my self esteem issue) so I'll most likely give it a go.
What about the rest of you singles out there, how is the dating world treating you and do you actually enjoy going on dates?
20 comments:
the guy on facebook, it is WIGSF right?
BOB
Ummm I am newly single and enjoying being single and flirting for now.
I am not closed off but people know better than to try to set me up.
-N
I don't envy you. Good men are hard to find, or as May West said "hard men are good to find" or something like that. haha
I'm pretty new to the single life and haven't started dating, but I'm kinda looking forward to it. I guess I'm a glutton.
Being single stinks, I could never get dates and when I did they never went well.
My GF tells me that I like dating. :P
Seriously though, dating pretty cool with the GF. Since we're in a relationship, we can go on a "date" whenever we want. We're trying to get into the habit of hitting up a winery every couple weekends or so. It's really inexpensive and involves booze...so win-win. :)
I think its good for you to go out and meet as mnay people as possible. You never know when you would meet the person for you.
Dating is still a baffling ordeal to me. Its one of those things that I find out about through third parties. I find out I'm dating people without knowing I'm dating them.
Good to hear you're getting your date on.
Well, I'm not really technically single yet but already I've had far too many people offer to set me up. My one friend is obsessed with setting me up with this guy who is 50 and he won't let it drop. He sent me his picture today and when I complain he just says that guys my age are looking for someone younger. Ack! I am sooooo not into the idea of dating, or being set up, or any of that and I doubt that will change anytime soon.
BUUUTTTTT... That said, I totally think you need to get over your fears on this one and get out there and do it. Change is good.
Bob, WIGSF seems to hate women so nope, not him :P
Natalia, ya I think the whole set up thing is awkward. It would have been much better had they just invited a bunch of people out including myself and the person, see if we clicked on our own.
JLee, I agree they are hard to find!
TT, maybe I should become a gay man instead haha! I don't like the puss puss, though it would be more beneficial...two wardrobes etc.
Wiwille, yes you are!
BB, I've had some go well, some not so well, but I stil loathe them.
Michael, well yes dating whilst in a relationship is a little easier..you already like the person :P
Yrautca, very true and I will give it a go with each one of them.
WIGSF, ummm how can you not know if you're dating someone??
SS, I agree change is good and I will give it a go. As for yourself I think it is wise to take time to get to know yourself again, enjoy your alone time :)
I'm stupid.
WIGSF, I could have told you that a long time ago. What finally convinced you?
hahaha
WIGSF, it just seems strange that one would not know they are dating someone. Generally dinner/drinks, mini putt whatever and making out with someone over a period of time means that you're dating them :P
So Bob which friend are you on facebook?
I wish I had better war stories, but I don't as I'm out of the pool.
However, I like that you're still working with you list to drive activity. Ha. Dating can be fun, and hell, odds are in your favor if you've got so many people interested. Good luck.
I hate dating too. I enjoy the part where you meet the person and get drunk and make out with them. Then I hate everything from the moment you start waiting for them to call you until you're about 6 months into the relationship.
But what I don't understand Ash, is if you don't want to go out with boys then why are you so interested in improving your sexual technique?
So many people I know seem to dislike dating because all too often they are dissapointed in the fact that after being "selective" in choosing a date that they think they may like, they eventually go out to dinner or whatever and discover that person is actually boorish, a perv, dull, or whatever.
It's like people tend to look past the dating aspect of things in the hopes that they will find a relationship (which is what they really seem to want).
You have to embrace the trainwreck. Revel in the power you have to grant someone the priveledge to treat you to a meal, only to reject them physically later.
I've had plenty of dates that were a total blast but led to nothing further between me and the other person. Initially it kinda sucks not to have the chance to see what could have been, but sometimes a good time is it's own reward.
Just my 2 cents.
Jennifer, I agree with that 1st part. As for the 2nd not sure what you're talking about. I am interested in boys, I just hate dating.
Hex, all that you have said is very very true. Though embracing the trainwreck sounds nasty LOL.
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Dating can be a pain... but it can also be so exciting. I kinda miss the whole dating sceen...
No, I am there with you. I LOATHE the whole dating process. The ideal thing would be to find someone and magically be in love...not have to go through all the rigamarole. But maybe that's why I was single so long. Oh well...who cares. My way worked out for me twice.
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