Perhaps it's my crapola mood but people have been driving me absolutely mad these past few days. What the fuck is wrong with people?I'm standing in line at the local coffee shop, it's 8am, I'm half asleep & next in line. Next thing I know I feel something rubbing up against my shoulder. I turn to look and almost bump noses with this old fart. He's practically standing right on top of me. I wanted to give him a dirty look and ask if he'd perhaps like to jump on my shoulders to get a better look at the selection seeing as I'm clearly in his way. My next thought was to move my arms around wildly knocking him in the process. Unfortunately I was too tired to argue with the shoulder molester and let it go.....ass!!
That being said, let's talk about compliments for a moment. They are lovely to get and of course make one feel good (sometimes), however I have a tendency to poo poo them away. It doesn't matter what the compliment is, I just can't seem to accept it. If someone comments on my hair I'll banter back with how I was supposed to wash it that day but didn't and how out of control it is. Oh what about those beautiful shoes I'm wearing......these old things, please I've had them for ages and they barely match my skirt. I'm photogenic you say....oh dear lord have you actually seen me in person.....dreadful it is. Does anyone else share this problem?I will never forget a friend of mine had just returned from travelling. We were catching up at some cheesy bar and a slow song came on. We began to dance and as we talked he started to tell me how beautiful I was. I did the usual "no no" and he went on to tell me how people never take the time to compliment one another and we should all give love and kind words. And to be honest it did feel wonderful and he was being sincere and I will never forget how a I felt at that moment.
13 comments:
Its okay to be modest, but sheesh, just take the compliment.
Other people typically grind me a lot more when my mood is sour, which contributes to an even worse mood. It's a vicious cycle.
As for compliments, at some point a few years ago, I just accept them because they are always a good thing.
People suck. People are stupid. This world will be so much better without people in it.
I get compliments and I accept them with much joy.
You should've thrown the guy a nice elbow to the pee pee.
Wow you are crazy.
WIGSF...it's hard for me to, i'm not sure why.
2DP, I agree with the sour mood bit, once i'm in one it's all over.
Yrautca, People are stupid sometimes indeed, and it's good that you can accept compliments.
Wiwille, I don't want to touch his pee pee ewe!! Why am I crazy?
I hate that personal space invasion! Makes me crazy...
I am the same way about compliments! I have tried to graciously accept them as much as possible, but it can make you uncomfortable in a way, like you think you're all that! haha
I used to have trouble accepting compliments but I've gotten a little better at it with time... not better enough though.
Oh, but you should learn to love the compliment. It's good to love yourself.
I also have the compliment problem, I am unable to accept them graciously, I get a lot of flack for it too. Sometimes a compliment is difficult to take.
yea wiwille, why is she crazy? there was nothing crazy about this post.
I totally hear where you're coming from. I can only see my flaws most of the time. It's like it's wrong to just accept a compliment. I find if someone compliments my clothes I say something stupid like "Target, 17.99!" I should just say thank you.
Yeah, Rawbean's right, if someone says something nice, just say thankyou or smile. People think they need to respond, but you really don't.
Funny, I just wrote a post about people standing too close to me in line.
On the compliment thing, I used to always demur when someone gave me a compliment. That is until someone stopped me one day and said, "Will you please stop insulting me by not accepting my compliment? You make me feel like I'm stupid for liking anything about you because you always contradict me." Since then, I've always graciously accepted compliments (or try very hard). Another interesting thing. After I started smiling and thanking people, I started to get even more compliments. It's a fantastic disease that spreads at will. Try it. You might like it.
sorry I havent checked your blog in a while, with the whole being in africa thing and all:
its good to be humble and self effacing; but compliments are good
slop
JLee & SS, I will try to accept the next one I receive graciously...now I just have to wait for one LOL.
Dawn, yes we should both work on this, add it to the goal list haha.
Rawbean, you crack me up, I love it "Target 17.99"
Jennifer, so i've been hearing, I shall give it a try.
Munkey, I shall try the simple smile and thank you rather than blabbering away at the person. Smiles are contagious :)
Slop, hey there, how is Africa??? I want to hear all about it, how about blogging again, put some photos up!! I freaking love that place.
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